Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability - Revision history

Dodo Conservative: /* Christorian Opinions/Discussion */

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Christorian Opinions/Discussion

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	In the pursuit of Christory, a number of Christorians obtained a copy of this book and subjected their eyeballs to the horrid content therein. Below are their opinions on topics on the book as a whole.		In the pursuit of Christory, a number of Christorians obtained a copy of this book and subjected their eyeballs to the horrid content therein. Below are their opinions on topics on the book as a whole.

	* In reading the contents of this book, the author has a common theme that amounts to "in case you talking about sex with your caretaker makes them uncomfortable, fire them and get a new one who is sex-positive". It is concerting that the author implies that it is socially acceptable to discuss sexual topics with what essentially is a paid employee. Discussing sex with someone who is not specialized in the topic could be viewed as tactless at best and sexual harassment at worst. Anything that could be misconstrued as encouragement of less-than-consensual activities would be dangerous for an autistic who has a hard time understanding [[Honest content\|boundaries]] and desperately wants [[~~sex\|China~~]].		* In reading the contents of this book, the author has a common theme that amounts to "in case you talking about sex with your caretaker makes them uncomfortable, fire them and get a new one who is sex-positive". It is concerting that the author implies that it is socially acceptable to discuss sexual topics with what essentially is a paid employee. Discussing sex with someone who is not specialized in the topic could be viewed as tactless at best and sexual harassment at worst. Anything that could be misconstrued as encouragement of less-than-consensual activities would be dangerous for an autistic who has a hard time understanding [[Honest content\|boundaries]] and desperately wants [[china]].

	* For a quick summary of the general lessons that the book takes away, it emphasizes how it's important to take away taboos with people who are disabled and dependent on caregivers who want sex, and it emphasizes breaking that taboo and getting comfortable asking for help achieving orgasm. One part of the book at the beginning says that there's too much taboo about who your partner is and "god forbid it be someone much older than you". "For some people it won’t be feasible to see and touch all parts of their bodies. If you require twenty-four-hour assistance you may never have someone willing to hold a mirror to see what your clitoris looks like. You may not feel comfortable even asking for that help." "What supports will you need to have in place in case you need to deal with things that come up during your experience? You may have overwhelming feelings that you don’t know how to cope with. Do you have someone you can talk with about these strong feelings or memories? If you don’t have a friend, family member, or caregiver with whom you can hash things out, or some other way that you work through difficult things in your life..."		* For a quick summary of the general lessons that the book takes away, it emphasizes how it's important to take away taboos with people who are disabled and dependent on caregivers who want sex, and it emphasizes breaking that taboo and getting comfortable asking for help achieving orgasm. One part of the book at the beginning says that there's too much taboo about who your partner is and "god forbid it be someone much older than you". "For some people it won’t be feasible to see and touch all parts of their bodies. If you require twenty-four-hour assistance you may never have someone willing to hold a mirror to see what your clitoris looks like. You may not feel comfortable even asking for that help." "What supports will you need to have in place in case you need to deal with things that come up during your experience? You may have overwhelming feelings that you don’t know how to cope with. Do you have someone you can talk with about these strong feelings or memories? If you don’t have a friend, family member, or caregiver with whom you can hash things out, or some other way that you work through difficult things in your life..."

Dodo Conservative: /* "Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity." */

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"Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity."

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	{{quote\|"We tend to class attractions as 'normal' and 'abnormal', and an attraction to disabled folk is firmly assigned to the 'abnormal' basket. Restrictions on who we're supposed to be attracted to seem the only 'abnormal' thing to me."\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}		{{quote\|"We tend to class attractions as 'normal' and 'abnormal', and an attraction to disabled folk is firmly assigned to the 'abnormal' basket. Restrictions on who we're supposed to be attracted to seem the only 'abnormal' thing to me."\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}

	: Chris would take this passage as the green light that justifies his sexual attraction to his mother. If there are no restrictions according to this book, why can't he have sex with his mother? However, the intention of the quote is reassure the disabled reader that ~~his/her~~ feelings towards someone are okay and justified, not that it's okay to have sexual relationships with persons that most cultures/societies would deem as abhorrent and at very least illegal.		: Chris would take this passage as the green light that justifies his sexual attraction to his mother. If there are no restrictions according to this book, why can't he have sex with his mother? However, the intention of the quote is reassure the disabled reader that their feelings towards someone are okay and justified, not that it is okay to have sexual relationships with persons that most cultures/societies would deem as abhorrent and at very least illegal.

	{{quote\|"As long as the fetish doesn't involve hurting themselves, or somebody else, and is consensual, we don't think people should be quick to judge fetishes as abnormal or threatening"\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 138.</ref>}}		{{quote\|"As long as the fetish doesn't involve hurting themselves, or somebody else, and is consensual, we don't think people should be quick to judge fetishes as abnormal or threatening"\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 138.</ref>}}

Dodo Conservative: /* "Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity." */

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"Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity."

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	{{quote\|"Maybe if disabled people on the whole weren't so excluded from life and normal life experiences, then the devotee attraction would not seem weird at all, but rather a factor of the magical continuum of desire, or the notion that there's at least one somebody for everybody-- and hopefully, in all our cases, lots of somebodies"\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}		{{quote\|"Maybe if disabled people on the whole weren't so excluded from life and normal life experiences, then the devotee attraction would not seem weird at all, but rather a factor of the magical continuum of desire, or the notion that there's at least one somebody for everybody-- and hopefully, in all our cases, lots of somebodies"\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}

	: Considering ~~how~~ Chris ~~views himself as~~ [[Autism\|~~"disabled"~~]], he would naturally feel that what he is doing is okay because he has been excluded from "life and normal life experiences" and "there's at least one somebody for everyone". Therefore in his mind the book is justifying his decision and giving him a sense of entitlement that he deserves this.		: Considering Chris's relationship with his [[Autism\|disability]], he would naturally feel that what he is doing is okay because he has been excluded from "life and normal life experiences" and "there's at least one somebody for everyone". Therefore in his mind the book is justifying his decision and giving him a sense of entitlement that he deserves this.

	{{quote\|"We tend to class attractions as 'normal' and 'abnormal', and an attraction to disabled folk is firmly assigned to the 'abnormal' basket. Restrictions on who we're supposed to be attracted to seem the only 'abnormal' thing to me."\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}		{{quote\|"We tend to class attractions as 'normal' and 'abnormal', and an attraction to disabled folk is firmly assigned to the 'abnormal' basket. Restrictions on who we're supposed to be attracted to seem the only 'abnormal' thing to me."\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}

Dodo Conservative: /* Overview */

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Overview

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	==Analysis==		==Analysis==
	=== Overview ===		=== Overview ===
	A few Christorians have taken it upon themselves to obtain this cursed piece of literature to see exactly how its contents could influence Chris (e.g. passages taken out of context). The book overall is graphic in its language and its description of the multiple facets of sex in general. ~~As stated elsewhere its~~ written from a perspective of someone who has a physical disability who may find sex to be awkward or unenjoyable~~. It is~~ not intended as a guide on ~~HOW~~ to have sex with people with disabilities.		A few Christorians have taken it upon themselves to obtain this cursed piece of literature to see exactly how its contents could influence Chris (e.g. passages taken out of context). The book overall is graphic in its language and its description of the multiple facets of sex in general. It is written from a perspective of someone who has a physical disability who may find sex to be awkward or unenjoyable, not intended as a guide on ''how'' to have sex with people with disabilities.

	=== "Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity." ===		=== "Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity." ===

Hurtful Truth Level at 03:34, 23 January 2024

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	Chris seems to have believed himself to be in a position to mentor people with relationship problems after reading this book. This is most notable with him attempting to provide guidance to ~~the~~ [[~~Suitress~~]] on her finding her "long-term" sweetheart in the college she'd attend. Having newly found power in finding justification to do [[Affair with Mother\|unspeakable acts]], he felt himself to be an expert in all things regarding sex and relationships.		Chris seems to have believed himself to be in a position to mentor people with relationship problems after reading this book. This is most notable with him attempting to provide guidance to [[Fiona]] on her finding her "long-term" sweetheart in the college she'd attend. Having newly found power in finding justification to do [[Affair with Mother\|unspeakable acts]], he felt himself to be an expert in all things regarding sex and relationships.

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			==Later claims==
			In a 22 [[January 2024]] tweet, Chris replied to a question of why he had bought the book, vaguely saying that "why wouldn’t I when the world is all mentally disabled in one way or another, even the neurotypicals."<ref>[[January 2024 social media posts#Motherfucker, part 2]]</ref>

	==See also==		==See also==

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	{{quote\|"Whether or not you are responding in the right way, with enough oomph, often enough, and to the right sort of person (god forbid you sexually respond to someone of the same sex, or much older than you, or... well, the list goes on) ... "\|The book ~~that started the downfall~~.<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 48.</ref>}}		{{quote\|"Whether or not you are responding in the right way, with enough oomph, often enough, and to the right sort of person (god forbid you sexually respond to someone of the same sex, or much older than you, or... well, the list goes on) ... "\|The book.<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 48.</ref>}}

	{{quote\|I even recently purchased a valuable and informative book to add additional guidance. \|Chris, [[Affair with Mother\|on having sex with his mother]]<ref name=null></ref>}}		{{quote\|I even recently purchased a valuable and informative book to add additional guidance. \|Chris, [[Affair with Mother\|on having sex with his mother]]<ref name=null></ref>}}

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	{{quote\|"Whether or not you are responding in the right way, with enough oomph, often enough, and to the right sort of person (god forbid you sexually respond to someone of the same sex, or much older than you, or... well, the list goes on) ... "\|The book that started the downfall.<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 48.</ref>}}		{{quote\|"Whether or not you are responding in the right way, with enough oomph, often enough, and to the right sort of person (god forbid you sexually respond to someone of the same sex, or much older than you, or... well, the list goes on) ... "\|The book that started the downfall.<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 48.</ref>}}

	{{quote\|~~"Thank you to Miriam Kaufman, Corey Silverberg~~ and ~~Fran Odette, by the way, for this wonderful how-~~to ~~guide on how to have sex with retarded people~~."\|~~[[Null]]~~, [[Affair with Mother\|~~knowing what this godforsaken book eventually led to~~]] <ref>~~https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPjmy3K7uT8 video has been removed~~</ref>}}		{{quote\|I even recently purchased a valuable and informative book to add additional guidance. \|Chris, [[Affair with Mother\|on having sex with his mother]]<ref name=null></ref>}}

	[[Image:ultimate-guide-to-sex-and-disability-cover.jpg\|right\|thumb\|200px\| Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.]]		[[Image:ultimate-guide-to-sex-and-disability-cover.jpg\|right\|thumb\|200px\| Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.]]

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	{{quote\|"Whether or not you are responding in the right way, with enough oomph, often enough, and to the right sort of person (god forbid you sexually respond to someone of the same sex, or much older than you, or... well, the list goes on) ... "\|The book that started the downfall.~~{{cite}}~~}}		{{quote\|"Whether or not you are responding in the right way, with enough oomph, often enough, and to the right sort of person (god forbid you sexually respond to someone of the same sex, or much older than you, or... well, the list goes on) ... "\|The book that started the downfall.<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 48.</ref>}}

	{{quote\|"Thank you to Miriam Kaufman, Corey Silverberg and Fran Odette, by the way, for this wonderful how-to guide on how to have sex with retarded people."\|[[Null]], [[Affair with Mother\|knowing what this godforsaken book eventually led to]] <ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPjmy3K7uT8</ref>}}		{{quote\|"Thank you to Miriam Kaufman, Corey Silverberg and Fran Odette, by the way, for this wonderful how-to guide on how to have sex with retarded people."\|[[Null]], [[Affair with Mother\|knowing what this godforsaken book eventually led to]] <ref>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rPjmy3K7uT8 video has been removed</ref>}}

	[[Image:ultimate-guide-to-sex-and-disability-cover.jpg\|right\|thumb\|200px\| Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.]]		[[Image:ultimate-guide-to-sex-and-disability-cover.jpg\|right\|thumb\|200px\| Abandon all hope, ye who enter here.]]

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	'''''The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability''''' is an educational book by Miriam Kaufman, first published in 2007. It states that it's the first complete sex guide for people who live with disabilities, pain, illness, or chronic conditions. Useful for absolutely everyone, regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation, the book addresses a wide range of disabilities -- from chronic fatigue, back pain, and asthma to spinal cord injury, hearing and visual impairment, multiple sclerosis, and more.		'''''The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability''''' is an educational book by Miriam Kaufman, first published in 2007. It states that it's the first complete sex guide for people who live with disabilities, pain, illness, or chronic conditions. Useful for absolutely everyone, regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation, the book addresses a wide range of disabilities -- from chronic fatigue, back pain, and asthma to spinal cord injury, hearing and visual impairment, multiple sclerosis, and more.

	Chris's first known mention of this book was on 5 [[July 2021]] in a conversation between him and [[Null]] (which was leaked on 31 July), where Chris stated:<ref name=null>[[~~Incest fallout chat leaks~~#Chris vaguely describes his relationship]]</ref>		Chris's first known mention of this book was on 5 [[July 2021]] in a conversation between him and [[Null]] (which was leaked on 31 July), where Chris stated:<ref name=null>[[Null DMs#Chris vaguely describes his relationship]]</ref>

	{{quotebox\|As one of my more curious followers may have found through my Amazon by now, I even recently purchased a valuable and informative book to add additional guidance.}}		{{quotebox\|As one of my more curious followers may have found through my Amazon by now, I even recently purchased a valuable and informative book to add additional guidance.}}

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	{{quote\|"Maybe if disabled people on the whole weren't so excluded from life and normal life experiences, then the devotee attraction would not seem weird at all, but rather a factor of the magical continuum of desire, or the notion that there's at least one somebody for everybody-- and hopefully, in all our cases, lots of somebodies"\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}		{{quote\|"Maybe if disabled people on the whole weren't so excluded from life and normal life experiences, then the devotee attraction would not seem weird at all, but rather a factor of the magical continuum of desire, or the notion that there's at least one somebody for everybody-- and hopefully, in all our cases, lots of somebodies"\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}

	: Considering ~~how~~ Chris ~~views himself as~~ [[Autism\|~~"disabled"~~]], he would naturally feel that what he is doing is okay because he has been excluded from "life and normal life experiences" and "there's at least one somebody for everyone". Therefore in his mind the book is justifying his decision and giving him a sense of entitlement that he deserves this.		: Considering Chris's relationship with his [[Autism\|disability]], he would naturally feel that what he is doing is okay because he has been excluded from "life and normal life experiences" and "there's at least one somebody for everyone". Therefore in his mind the book is justifying his decision and giving him a sense of entitlement that he deserves this.

	{{quote\|"We tend to class attractions as 'normal' and 'abnormal', and an attraction to disabled folk is firmly assigned to the 'abnormal' basket. Restrictions on who we're supposed to be attracted to seem the only 'abnormal' thing to me."\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}		{{quote\|"We tend to class attractions as 'normal' and 'abnormal', and an attraction to disabled folk is firmly assigned to the 'abnormal' basket. Restrictions on who we're supposed to be attracted to seem the only 'abnormal' thing to me."\|<ref>Kaufman, Silverberg, Odett, ''Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability'', (Cleis Press; 2nd edition (November 28, 2007)), 101.</ref>}}