User:AAE/Chris's TRUE and HONEST Gender - Revision history

PsychoNerd054 at 02:07, 21 April 2022

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	==TL;DR==		==TL;DR==

			{{Essays}}

AAE: /* Chris's attraction to women, and how it differs from that of a straight man */

2021-06-08T20:22:50Z

Chris's attraction to women, and how it differs from that of a straight man

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	==Chris's attraction to women, and how it differs from that of a straight man==		==Chris's attraction to women, and how it differs from that of a straight man==
	Chris's attraction to women has much more in common with lesbian attraction than straight attraction.		Chris's attraction to women has much more in common with lesbian/bisexual attraction than straight attraction.

	The most obvious difference is identity. A straight man wants a woman who will make him feel like a man – who will serve as his opposite for him to provide and protect for. A lesbian or bisexual woman wants a woman who will make her feel like a woman – who will serve as her equal or form roles outside the predetermined framework of heterosexuality. Suddenly, Chris wanting her potential partner to be the provider doesn't sound so weird.		The most obvious difference is identity. A straight man wants a woman who will make him feel like a man – who will serve as his opposite for him to provide and protect for. A lesbian or bisexual woman wants a woman who will make her feel like a woman – who will serve as her equal or form roles outside the predetermined framework of heterosexuality. Suddenly, Chris wanting her potential partner to be the provider doesn't sound so weird.

AAE: /* Chris's childhood */

2021-06-02T02:23:18Z

Chris's childhood

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 ==Chris's childhood==
 Chris has always identified more strongly with girls than with boys. She had few male friends growing up, instead gravitating towards a slew of gal-pals and other female acquaintances. While her interest in video games is stereotypically male, it isn't a conventionally masculine interest in the way that sports are. Also, Chris has always stuck with casual, fun games, instead of violent shoot-em-up games.
 ==Chris's attraction to women, and how it differs from that of a straight man==

AAE: /* But isn't it just the autism doing the talking? */

2021-06-02T02:06:52Z

But isn't it just the autism doing the talking?

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	Not exactly. Most studies on the matter have found a correlation between autism and being trans, but none have actually gone beyond educated guesses when it comes to the cause. There's a pretty big leap between saying ''that'' more autistic folks are trans and saying ''why'' they're trans. Quite frankly, looking for an explanation is a waste of time.		Not exactly. Most studies on the matter have found a correlation between autism and being trans, but none have actually gone beyond educated guesses when it comes to the cause. There's a pretty big leap between saying ''that'' more autistic folks are trans and saying ''why'' they're trans. Quite frankly, looking for an explanation is a waste of time.

	Some argue that autistic people can only ''think'' they're trans, but that is patronizing and invalidating.		Some argue that autistic people can only ''think'' they're trans, but that is patronizing and invalidating. Autistic people don't completely lack insight as a rule, and they are actually less likely to be swayed by pressure to conform without an incentive for conforming.

			Besides, Chris is resistant to change. She couldn't have possibly transitioned on a whim.

	Autistic trans folks do exist. Look up Ella Grant. She's feminine as ever as well.		Autistic trans folks do exist. Look up Ella Grant. She's feminine as ever as well.

AAE: /* But isn't it just the autism doing the talking? */

2021-06-02T02:04:41Z

But isn't it just the autism doing the talking?

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	==But isn't it just the [[autism]] doing the talking?==		==But isn't it just the [[autism]] doing the talking?==
	Not exactly. Most studies on the matter have found a correlation between autism and being trans, but none have actually gone beyond educated guesses when it comes to the cause. There's a pretty big leap between saying ''that'' more autistic folks are trans and saying ''why'' they're trans. Quite frankly, looking for an explanation is a waste of time.		Not exactly. Most studies on the matter have found a correlation between autism and being trans, but none have actually gone beyond educated guesses when it comes to the cause. There's a pretty big leap between saying ''that'' more autistic folks are trans and saying ''why'' they're trans. Quite frankly, looking for an explanation is a waste of time.

			Some argue that autistic people can only ''think'' they're trans, but that is patronizing and invalidating.

	Autistic trans folks do exist. Look up Ella Grant. She's feminine as ever as well.		Autistic trans folks do exist. Look up Ella Grant. She's feminine as ever as well.

AAE: /* Femininity vs. Womanhood */

2021-06-02T02:03:07Z

Femininity vs. Womanhood

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	==Femininity vs. Womanhood==		==Femininity vs. Womanhood==
	There's a difference between being feminine and identifying as a trans woman. One is purely cultural, and the other is a complex combination of neurology, psychology, and culture. Compare someone like James Charles or David Bowie to the many tomboys and butch women of the world. Yes, trans women don't have to be highly feminine to be truly trans. If cis women can like cars, video games, or even '''suits''', why can't a trans woman? To argue otherwise is to appeal to generalizations and stereotypes.		There's a difference between being feminine and identifying as a trans woman. One is purely cultural, and the other is a complex combination of neurology, psychology, and culture. Compare someone like James Charles or David Bowie to the many tomboys and butch women of the world. Yes, trans women don't have to be highly feminine to be truly trans. If cis women can like cars, video games, or even '''suits''', why can't a trans woman? To argue otherwise is to appeal to generalizations and stereotypes. This isn't the 50s anymore.

	While Chris might not have many classically ''feminine'' traits, she does have many classically ''womanly'' traits, and common traits among trans woman.		While Chris might not have many classically ''feminine'' traits, she does have many classically ''womanly'' traits, and common traits among trans woman.

AAE: /* The curse of genetics: Things Chris can't help */

2021-06-02T02:01:44Z

The curse of genetics: Things Chris can't help

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	==The curse of genetics: Things Chris can't help==		==The curse of genetics: Things Chris can't help==
	Passing isn't all about hormones and surgery – for many, you have to win the genetic lottery to begin with. Bone structure can't be changed, with a few exceptions ~~like~~ the ~~bones~~ of the face. ~~Even then~~, ~~surgery~~ is expensive. There is no surgery to remove height (minus cutting off the legs) or narrow the shoulders. While HRT can ''prevent'' hair loss, it generally can't ''reverse'' it. Even Rogaine isn't perfect, and most wigs within Chris's budget will look obviously synthetic. Judging by pictures of Chris's childhood bowlcut, she might be able to ~~pull off straight-across bangs or even '70s curtain bangs~~, but ~~with that much hairline recession, even that might not save her~~.		Passing isn't all about hormones and surgery – for many, you have to win the genetic lottery to begin with. Bone structure can't be changed after the early 20s, with a few exceptions. For example, facial feminization surgery can alter the bone structure of the face. However, it is expensive, and not all insurance plans cover it. There is no surgery to remove height (minus cutting off the legs) or narrow the shoulders. Surgeries do exist to broaden the hips, but hormones alone can often do the job.

	For every Blaire White or Samantha Lux ~~gaining notoriety for being a passing trans woman~~, you have Christine, cursed with a barrel chest and receding hairline. None of that is a reflection on Chris's status as a trans woman, though. It's no fault of her own, either.		While HRT can ''prevent'' hair loss, it generally can't ''reverse'' it. Even Rogaine isn't perfect, and most wigs within Chris's budget will look obviously synthetic. Judging by pictures of Chris's childhood bowlcut, she might be able to pull off straight-across bangs or even '70s curtain bangs, but with that much hairline recession, even that might not save her.

			For every Blaire White, Kim Petras, or Samantha Lux in this world, you have Christine, cursed with a barrel chest and receding hairline. None of that is a reflection on Chris's status as a trans woman, though. It's no fault of her own, either. If her body and mind matched perfectly, she'd just be a plain old cis woman.

	==It's all in the voice==		==It's all in the voice==

AAE: /* Trans life in a conservative suburb */

2021-02-11T21:19:58Z

Trans life in a conservative suburb

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	==Trans life in a conservative suburb==		==Trans life in a conservative suburb==
	Chris comes from a conservative background. Her parents are conservative. Her hometown, Ruckersville, is conservative. Nearby Charlottesville is conservative, outside college and yuppie circles. In fact, the whole state of Virginia is a fine blend of the East's indifference and the South's conservatism. It pretty much goes without saying that Chris would be better off in LA, San Francisco, Seattle, or somewhere in the West.		Chris comes from a conservative background. Her parents are conservative. Her hometown, Ruckersville, is conservative. Nearby Charlottesville is conservative, outside college and yuppie circles. In fact, the whole state of Virginia is a fine blend of the East's indifference and the South's conservatism. It pretty much goes without saying that Chris would be better off in LA, San Francisco, Seattle, or somewhere in the West.

			==Conclusion==
			Christine Weston Chandler might not be a passing trans woman, a classically feminine trans woman, or a particularly graceful one. However, she is still a trans woman. She's just unlucky.

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AAE: /* How Chris's autism impacts her transition */

2021-02-11T21:17:16Z

How Chris's autism impacts her transition

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	==Trans life in a conservative suburb==		==Trans life in a conservative suburb==
	Chris comes from a conservative background. Her parents are conservative. Her hometown, Ruckersville, is conservative. Nearby Charlottesville is conservative, outside college and yuppie circles. In fact, the whole state of Virginia is a fine blend of the East's indifference and the South's conservatism. It pretty much goes without saying that Chris would be better off in LA, San Francisco, Seattle, or somewhere in the West.		Chris comes from a conservative background. Her parents are conservative. Her hometown, Ruckersville, is conservative. Nearby Charlottesville is conservative, outside college and yuppie circles. In fact, the whole state of Virginia is a fine blend of the East's indifference and the South's conservatism. It pretty much goes without saying that Chris would be better off in LA, San Francisco, Seattle, or somewhere in the West.

	~~==How Chris's autism impacts her transition==~~

	==TL;DR==		==TL;DR==

AAE: /* Voice */

2021-02-11T21:13:56Z

Voice

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	For every Blaire White or Samantha Lux gaining notoriety for being a passing trans woman, you have Christine, cursed with a barrel chest and receding hairline. None of that is a reflection on Chris's status as a trans woman, though. It's no fault of her own, either.		For every Blaire White or Samantha Lux gaining notoriety for being a passing trans woman, you have Christine, cursed with a barrel chest and receding hairline. None of that is a reflection on Chris's status as a trans woman, though. It's no fault of her own, either.

	==~~Voice~~==		==It's all in the voice==
	Chris does have an advantage in the voice department; her voice has always been naturally high and bright. Instead of using falsetto, she could be the perfect candidate for voice training. Voice training focuses on using less "weight" when speaking, replacing the nasal tone with something softer while still keeping the pitch and brightness. Many trans women are unaware of this, though, and focus exclusively on pitch. Voice training is notoriously difficult, and I don't blame Chris for not being able to go through with it. Chris also came out before TransVoiceLessons (the gold standard of voice training) rose to prominence. TVL's pre-training voice was actually lower and more masculine than Chris's pre-transition voice, but her new voice is more feminine than even Cyndi Lauper! Chris's tone-deafness might be the main obstacle here.		Chris does have an advantage in the voice department; her voice has always been naturally high and bright. Instead of using falsetto, she could be the perfect candidate for voice training. Voice training focuses on using less "weight" when speaking, replacing the nasal tone with something softer while still keeping the pitch and brightness. Many trans women are unaware of this, though, and focus exclusively on pitch. Voice training is notoriously difficult, and I don't blame Chris for not being able to go through with it. Chris also came out before TransVoiceLessons (the gold standard of voice training) rose to prominence. TVL's pre-training voice was actually lower and more masculine than Chris's pre-transition voice, but her new voice is more feminine than even Cyndi Lauper! Chris's tone-deafness might be the main obstacle here.