Darling

Chris' justification for using "darling" and "dear"

"Darling" is a common term of affection noteworthy for its idiosyncratic misuse by Chris. "Dear" is also used by him for the same purposes, albeit less commonly. While the term, when used by an adult male for an adult female, almost always carries romantic associations, Chris says that he uses it purely in a platonic manner and cannot understand why the objects of his affection find it creepy. It is possible that because Chris sees himself as a woman, he thinks he can escape the gendered meaning of the word, ignoring that an actual lesbian saying it to another woman would be only modestly less creepy.

"Darling" first appeared as Chris's default form of address for DoopieDoOver, which most trolls and later Doopie herself recognized as Chris attempting to hit on a potential Sweetheart. Chris's incessant use of the term was a key factor in making Doopie feel uncomfortable with interacting with him and setting the stage for the climax of the Doopie Saga. Chris later brought the term back when interacting with Doopie's friend LadyOfTheCosmo, who turned out to be much less tolerant of it than Doopie and went on an A-Logging screed after Chris kept bothering her. She tried to convince Chris, to no avail, of the typical connotations of the word before blocking him; Chris responded by using his sockpuppet account to roleplay the "proper" use of the term.

He also used it on Tabitha St. Germain.

Chris has used both darling and dear to refer to his mother. His MLP-inspired character of her is named Sugar Darling. He calls her dear in an April 2017 Captain's Log and Clare Porter mentioned that he addressed his mother that way over the phone.

Chris thinks that his use of the term is justified as the late actress Talluah Bankhead used it liberally in movies. He wrote about this in a letter addressed to LadyOfTheCosmo. However, what Chris fails to consider is that unlike himself, Bankhead was an attractive woman who only used the terms as such while on set.

Open Letter: Something that grinds my gears is how people are Not accepting of the neutral terms "darling" or "dear". I use one or the other as a neutral addressing, inlieu of the various online nicknames, or actual names in general, when that detail is unknown, or when the other person is too distant to trust me, yet, on addressing them by their name. I Swear, if Tallulah Bankhead were alive today, she would never put up with such disrespectful responses. That is all for now, "Dahling." Hmpf! Christine W. Chandler

See also

• Sweetheart
• Chris and kindness
• Chris and socialization